I’d like to start this thread to be an open-minded source to talk about some really tough parenting issues. (Please mind your manners: if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing).
I’ll start with my most recent parenting issue: Maddie starting kindergarten. Her dad is deployed and gone and almost impossible to talk to (even if he were in the country 😅) and his idea of talking about school is sending her to private school so his parents can pay for it. And if their intentions were pure, maybe I’d entertain this nonsense.
My solution to this was to buy my own home in a good school district and silence the private school BS. The home buying process was rough (to say the least), so I decided to build… and now I’m having issues that come with building post pandemic: delays 😫😔
Originally the home was projected to be done June/July, then July/August… now it’s been pushed to the end of September!! The latest update is the end of October 😳😫😔 It’s been extremely stressful waiting for extensions on my current lease at the apartment, and trying to plan movers/storage.
Now this is less than ideal for many reasons, but the biggest is that Maddie starts kindergarten this year! I was planning to just commute for the first few weeks until closing, but now that it looks like it will be 2+ months, that’s incredibly unrealistic. So, my options are to enroll her up by the house and drive an extra 4 hours per day (on top of working 13+ hours a day), enroll her in the school in our current neighborhood (very bad ratings, too much transition), or homeschool until the house is done.
I think at this point the homeschooling until the house is done is the best option for our family. I am curious if anyone has any other suggestions though.
Another issue: Dental work… my daughter needed a bunch of work done last year (first real visit after all the COVID closures) and she wouldn’t even let the hygienist do x-rays or brush her teeth. They recommended having her sedated to do the work, and I definitely found the concept scary. I also had no other realistic options for her. Her Dad fought me to get the work done, then wanted it completed before he got her for the week of Christmas 🤔
Fast forward to about a month ago, her top left tooth got loose, and I thought it was just time to fall out: but it broke off, half still in the socket with extra tissue around it from the first time she bumped it. I took her to 3 different dentist’s and they all said the tooth needs to come out, it’s a constant infection risk and causing her intermittent pain. One of the dentists tried to remove the tooth with nitrous and novacain, but she couldn’t 😫😔 so she recommended to sedate her again to get it out. Her Dad thinks we should wait for it to get infected, then do something about it 🤦♀️😡🤦♀️. Yet a week later, he spent a bunch of extra money to attempt to have her passport renewed for a trip to the Bahamas just a couple of weeks after he gets back from deployment. All while he has nowhere to live when he returns 🤔
So any suggestions on how to deal with any of this madness is greatly appreciated 🙂
Update: the house was delayed again, so homeschooling it is until the house is done. Her dad’s deployment was extended again also, and he hasn’t given me any feedback on the school thing, so I just did what I thought was best 🤷♀️
Anyone else in a similar situation?
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